ScanINCREDIBLE FACT:  Many women are guilty of trying to change her man.



Anyone who belongs to Christ has become a new person. The old life is gone. A new life has began.

Change comes from within. Spiritual DNA can not be compromise. Find some acceptance or walk away. He has to be  ready able and willing to change. Only through the original potter can this take place.


This entry was posted on August 16, 2015.


ScanTHE INCREDIBLE FACTS: Any and everyone that deals with an stressful relationship, always hope for her significant other to change.

Can someone change? Yes! But with time, plenty of time. No one wishes to stay in an unhealthy relationship, but they will. Women take it upon their selves to try and change this individual that is causing the stress within the relationship. Most times women stay in unhealthy relationships because she fears he will go with someones else and treat her better. They then feel rob of their opportunity to rescue this man and get the treatment for better that they feel they deserved. There are a few reason that this man may do better with the  other woman.

  • She will never from the beginning tolerate what you have
  • The other woman’s standards are high
  • Her total code of ethics clearly states she will never diminish herself for such behavior.
  • Her walk spiritually told the devil this is not the one

On the other hand it could be totally different, the other woman may have just done you favor and took him off your hands, perhaps maybe even saved your life. TWO TO TEN she is more likely to be as weak because she is hungry for a man, and has the same idea too; that she can change him.

But do they really change? Asked your self. Can you replant a rose, rebuild a garden. To do this takes a lot of de – rooting, deplowing, and a lot of nurturing, just as well a lot of time apart from him and God at the for front reshaping this already potted soil ( man). His Garden(SOUL) has to be poured into with fresh water(blessings).

Ladies this is a job that you can not do. The devil want to employ you to do this job because he know he can bring you down and make you hate everything there is about love.


incredible coach graci

This entry was posted on August 12, 2015.


HEALTHY LOVEAs we all know, no one is perfect. Even if his walk is strong with God. For we all go to God but with out sin. But hey ladies let’s not get happy. We all will go through some difficult times within our relationships, it’s just getting through them.  As women we can be spoiled, selfish, and demanding. This makes most of our situations worst then they really are. Never the less we need to keep all situations simple. Keeping things simple will allow you an open view to see and here clearly what is before you. Our men will make mistakes, our men will look at other women, our men will act like babies and most of all they will with draw from time to time. Nothing will always be peachy.

This entry was posted on August 10, 2015.


thDSY9EUNPIt is a beautiful thing to be in love. But when love becomes dark, because he is your only light. This type of love is not love. It is an uncertain emotion that your only survival is hope. Hoping that one day he will love you. Then that hope is continuously turning into mounds of pain, that you prefer to feel and live with, because you know other way. You strive and live off his promises, His every word has become the light of your journey, to some where as far as you are concerned, when actually you can not see that you actually in the dark. You can not see beyond his lies.

No ones else opinion matters, your opinion dose not even matter. When your significant other is your guidance in life, that is a very dull light and eventually you will clash. So many young woman have lost their lives, homes, careers, children, and families. These women have been misguided through the darkness of their thoughts being guided by their significant other. Please understand that, some that feel so good trust’ that instance feeling only comes from a dark side of your mate. If you can not make yourself feel that great, you about to make an entrance into hell’s den.

You scream for God when the pain gets worse and the light you so trusted grows dimmer and dimmer. But he can’t hear you if your desire is to stay in the darkness and you are just asking him for a little light, to make your mate change. God will never turn you over to the devil, but if that is your choice to stay and seek some part time relief, keep in mind God gives his all and not half. True light will only come through the father. God gives you signs in a relationship that will signal that tells you if you’re in a safe place or not. When things in your life start to go wrong and the only thing that seem to be working for you in your life is you significant other, than he is all that matters. God should always be in the center of your life. You should never lose whom you are, what you are called to to anyone. To many love seem to feel good when they can only see their mate. The best love dose not cause these things below

Fear,Constant Tears,  Lies, Lost Sleep, Cheating,Non- Support of your love one,Abuse

These are the things that states this is not a relationship ordained by God.



This entry was posted on July 27, 2015.


HEALTHY LOVEThis is how many women feel. (LOOK WHAT GOD DONE FOR ME) All ready they make him their God, Lord, and chief of chief before he is shown to be that. Designing your own relationship. will only bring you nothing more but, pain, confusion, lies, lust and plenty of sleepless nights. Now on other other hand there are relationships that are very one sided. This too is not designed by God. You have designed this one as well.  relationship where you make him feel like he is everything and doing everything, while all alone. you’re the one keeping the fort going. But you need to make him look good before the family, but God knows the truth and so do you. You are the one buying the clothes, the food, paying the bills, paying for the trips and he is the one hanging on your hip. So now you have settled just so you think he is never going any where. And guess what? he isn’t going any where. Why should he. You just cheated yourself all to well, and will never know what it is like to have the best that God can give you in a mate. THERE IS NO Eulogy in this marriage or relationship. With these two types of relationships you quote on quote sold yourself soul just to say you have a man. You have lost your worth.

But God is there waiting for you to ask for his instruction for a balance and greater.

Look around within your current relationship, observe What have you accomplished in this relationship?

Are you still where you were in life when you first met him?

What have you lost while with him?

Is he supporting you and all you want to do?

Is he welcomed by people in your life whom you know really love you?

Dose he battle with you spiritually?

What dose he do for a living and is he capable living for himself?

Are you carrying most of the weight?

Is he controlling?

Dose he have an abuse problem

Dose he have a chemical dependency?

How dose ten people see him(THEY ALL CAN NOT BE BLIND)

Can you view a beautiful wedding with this guy(every woman dreams)

What type of company dose he keep?

Is he someone that your child would love?(THE CHILD THAT REALLY LOVE YOU AND WANT THE BEST)

Is he someone you would choose over God (ALL THOUGH NO ONE SHOULD)

Can you imagine he great wedding of all time with this person?


This entry was posted on July 16, 2015.


PHONYHonest! What many individuals want in a relationship. It’s a must. But is it given? Not often. Fact is, there is no relationship without honesty. Your relationship would only be build on a lie. Even if you tell one lie to an individual who really trust you and love you devotedly. That one little lie could rip you both a part, and destroy the relationship. You you or your partner is not honest with one another then one or the other is not giving an 100 percent within the relationship. You aren’t even sure of your partner.

To know your partner is to know that there is nothing you can not share with him or her. LOL! You put yourself in a position to have sleepless nights. Because you do not know when the lie will reveal it self.

  • you become paranoid
  • Fearful
  • Agitated
  • Unfocused on your relationship
  • Feeling Guilty all the time
  • And Yes! Flipping the script all the time.

I ask is all worth it? If you are grown tell the truth.  If you are in a balanced relationship, you should not be ashamed to tell the truth. You and your partner can work it out. Being dishonest is all about you. It is a selfish move. You lie because you want what you want. You lie because you need to feel good and not convicted. Some folk just do not know how to tell the truth, because the been about themselves their whole life.

Set the tone for the conversation between you and your spouse.

  • Never jump to a conclusion
  • Learn to listen to listen clearly (You will hear the lie if there is one, without putting your stuff in it)
  • Don not be a story teller and fabricate your truth or or your lie. It is a turn off.
  • It may hurt to tell the truth but at least it is out.
  • Always stick with the here and now. Never go back to yesterday


This entry was posted on July 7, 2015.


thNLTEWT7CSo often many individuals tend to get angry at love. From bad experiences, and most times because of how they see it. Many individuals complain and say that, they will never love again. Sad but this is how they feel. There are some that say love dose not exist; because the pain has been that great. Some people buy love because to them Love have no morals, and neither do they.

We must began to first understand the human heart and the emotion behind feelings. Following we must research our higher power spiritually. You will never come to know love until you are spiritually connected to God and come to know a relationship with him, and how love is naturally rooted. We may not see God the way many of us view him. But the light of his love is seen through people places and things; that are grounded in rooted in his love and deliverance. So when God hurts because of our behaviors it dose not reduce his love nor destroy it, it knows that he has taught that love remains, and it dies only when you do.You never stop loving a person, you just detach yourself and go on. You never want any harm to come to them, that is love. There is nothing more powerful than love. It is our miss understanding of how we see love as individuals. LOVE OVER COME ALL THINGS AND BRINGS YOU THROUGH ALL THINGS.

Abuse hurts, hate hurts, lies hurts, poor hurts, never the lest pain hurts. Love dose not hurt. This is why it is important to evaluate what and who we allow in our lives. It is the demonic behaviors that destroy love. Evil and love dose not share the same Soul. Love dose not hurt it is the situations and the person whom caused the pain that hurts. Now if you asked; can you experience that thing called a MIGHTY LOVE. YES! When you began to plant the seeds of love, be careful of how you are watering that seed. Love is a seed that needs plenty of attention, smiles, understanding, acknowledgement from time to time,faith, prayers, hugs, and acceptance, as well as awareness. You must always have an opened mind and set the tone to not flare, but spare feeling. LOVE DOSE NOT HURT.

This entry was posted on July 3, 2015.


Fotor0531142436FACT: Pain can be visible, but  never spoken about. People see your scares through your everyday actions; and even your visible physical abuse. They dare not say anything. Feeling as if it is none of their business. They hurt for you, but respect you or maybe just a afraid to inquire. If you never open your mouth, many are going to assume you are ok.

Lydia a 32 yr old woman. has been being abused physically and mentally by her abuser. She nerve spoke a word of this. No one ever saw the physical abuse, but knew there were something wrong with Lydia. Age fifteen  she was sexually abused by here uncle, which did not end until 17 years until his demise. Lydia still never spoke a word. Her voice became locked; from fear, depression, guilt. Lydia is dealing with emotional freeze. What people had noticed about Lydia is that she was sad all the time, resentful, withdrawn a lot of times.Most off all she was always angry. When all your hurt and pain began to control your day, everything a round you becomes dark. You now do not see the light. People are no longer visible to you. This why you do not share and open up. What will they think or feel. We all realize and come to know that other women are gossipers and be-belittling. This was a stage that Lydia did not want to cross. What was she to do? Who was she to call on. Her voice was locked. By the sheer ignorance of others. It is ao important to find your voice, to be able to find your place  in the world as well as own it.


This entry was posted on June 20, 2015.


Fotor0531142436No matter how many years you have been with someone, it is always hard finding the words to say it is over. Most times it takes a burst of anger, or someone just throwing a lot of shade. But keep in mind that the longer you stay silent about your true feelings in a relationship; the more shade you will throw and the worst things will get. Because you have allowed fear to set in. You want the relationship to end, but you aren’t vocally amp enough to sound the trumpet. When someone is afraid to voice their opinion in this situation. Nine times out of ten her or she is not 100 percent positive is this is the right move, but they know at this time this is what they want. Some people can blow the horn because it’s something in the relationship they want, but it isn’t the person no longer.In relationship decision it is hard to speak because there is a need or want or fear that is blocking the voice. That person needs to to stop fornagleing and decide first what is keeping them from speaking about their choice to end the relationship. If it is truly fear then seek help. Ask your self at all times that you are ready to speak, what are my pay offs for being silent in my decision making? What are my pay offs for staying in this relationship.

#with no voice ,you can not represent your life’s desires


This entry was posted on June 17, 2015.


Fotor0531142436Getting your point across and being understood is important to you. Someone not understanding you tends to shut you down. Now you are lost for words. The individual has over powered the conversation; along with placing fear in you, and he/she  is now in control. This leaves you drained and annoyed. You were not heard. You partner, child, boss, friends can only rob you of your right to be heard if you allow it. There is not one person in this world that can not be heard. Even in the court of law you get to have your say. But dose this mean that you need to be handcuff to be heard.? But you can use the same tool they use, and own your role in a conversation as well as be heard. LOL! No one is ever going to say you have the right to be silent. You heard what I said the right. So own your voice and be heard.

For many individuals it is hard to be heard. There are risk in getting your point across. But there is a price to pay for freedom. There are relationships you will think about. Oh God if I say this will this ruin us? In retrospect it might make that party respect you a little more. Will mom be mad at me? she may but she is that key word mom. A real mother gets angry then later get over it. Will I lose my job? No! there is a system and protocol to save your job. It is not what you say it is how you say it. Even economy has a way of stilling your voice. Just respect the person with the authority or badge, but position your conversation according to the rules of that over head. Still you get to voice your feelings.

Good communication skills mean having the ability to be heard, no matter whom you want to hear. Have you ever noticed how a person lite up a room and right away he has everyone’s attention.You too can lite up a conversation and get the response you need to get your point across to people or just one individual. This what a mute will do if they want to be heard; not only will they use sign language, but they will also use a certain facial expression that gets that persons attention and use a whole body action. As you are reading this now You may be that person that have words to say and just do not know how to articulate them, because you are unaware of the out come. When you ride a horse too hard and the wrong way he will jilt until he trows you off, but the next time you will know how to ride him. COACH GRACI   #twitter is a tweet; but to get heard and understood you must speak


This entry was posted on June 15, 2015.